Recently, one of the big discussions between my husband, Tim, and I was whether or not we could watch Avengers Endgame in theater without seeing Captain Marvel first. It was a serious question with serious discussion of the pros and cons. We finally decided that, of the two, Avengers Endgame needed to be seen in theater due to its epic nature; Captain Marvel could wait for Redbox.
You guessed it: We are nerds. Every year (sometimes twice a year), we watch Lord of the Rings and The Hobbit movies, and every time, I find myself saying, “I just love these movies” multiple times, to Tim’s amusement.
What makes these epic adventure movies, whether superheroes or hobbits and elves, so appealing to me? I love a good story that pits good against evil. I love a good made-up land that pulls you in until you wished you lived there.
I love it when the hero stands up to evil and wins gloriously. I love the speeches that are given before epic battles – I cry during those sometimes.
But, out of all of these things, I have discovered what pulls me into these stories the most: the comradery, the friendship between the heroes.
Samwise walks into Mordor with Frodo, even carrying him at the last. Iron Man becomes like a father to Spiderman. Bilbo Baggins nearly gives his life for Thorin Oakenshield. Aragorn takes one look back at his friends before running to what very possibly could be his death, and whispers, “For Frodo.” And then Iron Man… well, I won’t spoil it for anyone.
The deep friendships, represented in these movies and many other epic movies, always moves me. We were made for friendship. God made us to connect with one another, to form deep bonds of friendship that persevere despite life’s difficulties, to support one another in the big and the small, to give of ourselves for the good of the other – to be present in each other’s lives.
Both men and women need this, but as a woman, I know how essential this is to women.
My favorite scene from the newest Avengers movie comes when all hope seems to be lost and the battle for Earth is being waged. The Avengers are trying to get the Infinity Gauntlet across the battlefield, and when Spiderman hands the device to Captain Marvel, he asks how she’s going to get it through Thanos’s army.
Captain Marvel is then surrounded by all the women superheroes on the battlefield.
Wanda replies, “Don’t worry.”
Okoye finishes, “She’s got help.”
There’s this epic shot of all the women before they go into action. The scene gave me goosebumps.
How often, as a woman, are we in need of other ladies to come up beside us and say the exact same thing? “Don’t worry. She’s got help.”
One of the best litmus tests for theories regarding what’s important in our churches is to look for where Satan is staging attacks. Whatever he’s making an effort to tear down, we should be building up with double his effort. Because if it’s important to him, it’s essential to us.
Ladies, how often do we find ourselves longing for deep connection with other women, but something always gets in the way of opportunity. We’re too busy. We question our worth: Does she even want to hang out with me? Am I worth her time? We speculate. We fear rejection. So many friendships have been wrecked by misunderstandings, gossip, hurt feelings, or a lack of effort.
But, we desperately need the support of other women in our lives, having our backs when we face our own battlefields, sharing our joys and hurts, lifting us up in prayer, looking Satan in the eye and saying, “Not today, Satan. She’s got help.”
Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 says, “Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their work; If one falls down, his friend can help him up.”
I’m picturing another scene now, one in which the women of the church come together on the battlefield that wages around us to help each other – to reach down and help each other up when we fall. We need this.
Whether it’s reaching out to your friend you haven’t talked to in a while or setting up that coffee date you’ve been intending to get on your calendar, reach out today and make that connection. We were made for it.